I will never act on, or desire, the approval of another.

I can't get strength, value, importance, and meaning from what other people think of me. You have to stand firmly on your own two feet to the point where no one can hurt you past a certain point. I have to be OK for instance if alot of my close friends and ex-girlfriend thinks that I am a loser or that i am mean, or finds me repulsive and unattractive. It is unattractive to live in the world of other's opinions. You have to always follow yourself. What do you want? What do you really want? (and this means constantly being away of what are valid wants -- having other people say nice things of you or approve of you is not a valid want -- EVER, it has no instrinsic value). There maybe certain desires that necessarily involve others approving of you, but this is secondary to the desire since no-one is that special or uniquely satisfying -- if that person doesn't want to fulfill that desire, so what, there are others that will. Even if there is no-one that will, you shoudl never NEVER NEVER stoop to the point of changing your desire or behavior to get them to approve or fulfill that desire. You should be yourself entirely and go after only your own desires entirely even if it means that you will die alone and always be alone (even though i know that that is just simply not the case - especially with the internet and interconnectedness of the 6+ billion people on the planet.